A Story About My Mother and Breast Cancer
My name is Liz Wolfe and I am an award winning parenting coach with thirty-six years of experience in the creation and support of children and families. The last two books that I co-authored were Hands of Light and Take it or Leave it; I have now completed my newest book, _Lolli_Molli and the Secrets of Stinky Babies! I am so excited to share in the wonderful world that is mother and childhood and share with you the secrets of knowing when to let go and when to stick by the bed! My life as a mother has been full, and there are moments when I think that life would be so much easier if we could all just learn to say “No.”
One time while I was in a car with my son, he looked at me like I was some kind of adult in an adult movie! I had never seen him act that way before and he just told me that he liked to watch girls having sex on television and see how they act. I asked him why, and he said because it makes him feel good. I couldn’t help myself and asked him why not watch super adult movies!
He started telling me about how good it felt to be able to let go and take charge, like an adult, and how wonderful it felt to be appreciated for who I am. After he finished explaining how it feels, I realized that I had been giving him the wrong kind of lesson. As a loving, independent mom, I do not need to watch television in bed with our son. Instead, I let him know that it is fine for him to watch adult movies but that I was happy to be there for him, for Mommy, and for our kids!
We watched a few adult movies together and he really enjoyed them, but I know that he still thinks about me at times and wishes that I were in charge and acting like a grownup. This makes me happy and more determined to stick by my words to him, even when he disagrees with me. That makes parenting so much easier!
It also gave us some perspective on the value of self-esteem in our daily lives and the joy that comes from feeling loved and supported by others. After our session with the birth coach, I still get angry about the day care staff’s behavior towards Lolly. However, when she went to the doctor to recover and to start the post-natal support team, she became an unbelievable advocate for herself and Lolly! She told her story of how she was able to overcome sexual abuse as a child and how she used the incident to become a strong, self-supporting woman who is fully capable of taking care of her own child. I learned a lot from her story and since then I have made it a point to learn from the best when it comes to child rearing and parenting.
Lolly went on to tell me about the first time she felt completely happy about being a mom. It was during a visit from her two babies, Chase and Kingston, when she was overcome with so much love. She confessed that it wasn’t until she and her two babies were old enough to go home to their parent’s house that she realized the true meaning of motherhood. Through our wonderful, loving and supportive team of caregivers, Lolly came to realize that she was more capable of taking care of her babies’ needs than she ever thought possible!