How To Save Your Marriage When You’re Feeling Demanding

On the surface, the events of last week’s sensational Chloeswift would appear to be an unfortunate story of a loutish club lashing out at an errant member – but Chloeswift has a much more serious message for women. In fact it’s not even about the porn star. It’s about women and what they can do when they get together. That’s right – Chloeswift isn’t just about the porn star, although she certainly had her part to play in this sordid affair. The real theme of Chloeswift is women’s ability to rise up and become powerful, independent people once they are able to put up with some male interference.

The whole thing might sound like a farcical joke, one that has no place in modern society, or indeed in the world at large. However, Chloeswift’s story has a telling underlying truth. In a time when many women seem to be trapped in submissive roles, men are still the ones who decide on the fate of women. They aren’t just cuckolders – they genuinely care about the woman’s feelings. This means that when one of them decides to play Chloeswift, and actually perform in front of hundreds of other men, it’s the men who actually win.

But this kind of behaviour is on the decline. Recent surveys show that around half of all married couples now see the sex as the deciding factor in their marital satisfaction. More importantly, those same surveys indicate that the number of divorces has actually dropped, while the number of children has risen. The reasons for this are varied, but Chloeswift reveals something very simple.

It’s not all about the numbers. In fact, it’s interesting to note that Chloeswift is one of the only shows that allowing one woman (the “chick”), to be completely supported by her men. Usually, the men are there to simply supply her with an outlet for her emotions, but in Chloeswift the man – referred to as the Bad Guy – is the one who’s there to suggest ideas, offer encouragement, and – most importantly – listen to her. The fact that he’s a bit of a rarity (a straight, upper-class male with a penchant for smart ale and a generosity that go beyond generous tipping) means that women are more willing to accept his help and opinion. After all, he’s one of them.

This willingness to accept the expertise of one another has, of course, always existed. Women have always, throughout history, been at least willing to open up to, and gain support from men. They’ve also, over the centuries, been able to exert a great deal of control over the relationship. In the past, a relationship between a woman and a man was as likely to result in disaster as it was successful. The advent of women’s liberationism in the late 1960s changed that: by demanding a place in their partner’s life and explicitly involving him in their relationships, women could begin to exert more control over their lives and their relationships.

And this control has only increased since then. Today, a man seeking help for a relationship is as likely to consult a women’s guide or to pick up a book on relationship tips as he is to go to a counselor. He might consider speaking to a professional couple counselor, or he might simply head online and research relationship dynamics. Women’s guides and books are all over the place, and a relationship expert can be found in many places. On top of all that, men seeking advice on how to improve their relationship with a woman are advised to do what Chloeswift does: communicate!